Style has brought me here

I talked about starting a new chapter a few weeks ago. Well, that chapter has already ended. 

I found myself in a job I wasn't truly loving. Paloma from the past would have put her head down, worked hard and stayed there. But Paloma from the past in the past. So I faced my fear of confrontation and left.

This week, I started another chapter—the Focusing on Myself chapter. I'm proud to feel committed to myself, including this business. It's all about my values, goals, and utilising my time in a way I'm happy with. I have trained and learned so much over the years, and it's time to trust my gut and use it to get me where I want to be. 

Yesterday, I celebrated two years with my boyfriend. If you had asked me 2.5 years ago that I would be in a healthy relationship with a supportive, loving, and accepting partner, I wouldn't have believed you. My pattern was falling for unavailable men (that I thought I could change) and getting into toxic dynamics. With a rejection wound that kept getting bigger, I constantly sought rejection not only because it was familiar but because it validated the limited belief I had of not being worthy of love. I kept doing the same thing over and over again, expecting it to work. Thanks to a lot of personal work, I left all that behind, and I am in a healthy and happy relationship today.

What do these wins have in common? Confidence, self-awareness, and openness. And style helping me to tap into them. Had I not taken the time to know myself, accept myself, and let myself be seen, I would still be stuck in the old patterns. With their own limiting beliefs (and wardrobes).

Style is deeper than clothes. It's your job, relationships, identity, values, and hobbies. The way you dress represents your relationship with yourself and with the world. Your style has the power to change how you feel about yourself and others, and I'm celebrating two of those changes this week—in style.